Posted by: pastortomvabeach | April 22, 2014

Thought for the Week April 27, 2014

I ran across a very interesting article written by Kenny Luck, the founder of Every Man Ministries, men’s pastor at Saddleback Church, and Christian Mingle advisory board member. He provides biblically oriented teaching and leadership for men and pastors seeking relevant, timely material that battles cultural, worldly concepts threatening men in the church. The article is entitled, Sexual Atheism: Christian Dating Data Reveals a Deeper Spiritual Malaise.

I think this guy has hit on something that is a very accurate description of what is going on in many, if not most, Christian communities today, and something that presents a serious threat to the spiritual growth and development of individual Christians and to the church’s ability to really spread the gospel. The article is too long to share in one blog, so I’m going to share half this week and half next. I will add some comments at the end of both. Here’s half one:

“The guy sitting across from me is a professing and practicing Christian. He drops by my office unannounced today to talk to me about his new online dating life. Specifically, he wants to talk about the over-willingness of Christian women he has encountered on several of his dates who want to jump right from a very public conversation and vanilla latte at Starbucks to very private whispers and physical exchanges between the sheets back at his place.

“Usually this gender scenario is reversed, but the sex, love and dating landscape continues to move in a progressively liberal direction among Christians without any solid indicators that it will change anytime soon. Both sexes today, across all ages and Christian demographics, are prone to compartmentalize their faith away from their sexual life.

“While Christian singles report praying and church attendance are highly desirable qualities in the dating matrix, a troubling and confusing dichotomy arises when the issue of sex before marriage presents itself. Specifically, single Christians enter a sexual fog. That fog clouds and hides the reality that an identity rooted in Christ should manifest itself in intelligent and hope-filled sexual restraint based on God’s promises and instead replaces it with fear and pride-filled choices based on some other promise they believe more.

“In a recent study conducted by, Christian singles between the ages of 18 to 59 were asked, ‘Would you have sex before marriage?’ The response? Sixty-three percent of the single Christian respondents indicated yes. In my 30 years of youth and adult ministry experience, this is as unfiltered, direct and honest as a question and answer can be.

“It is equally honest to say that nearly nine out of 10 self-proclaimed single Christians are, in practice, sexual atheists. In other words, God has nothing to say to them on that subject of any consequence or, at least, anything meaningful enough to dissuade them from following their own course of conduct. It is the ultimate oxymoron. A person who at once believes in a wise, sovereign and loving God who created them and all things, can also believe, simultaneously, He should not, cannot or will not inform their thinking or living sexually. It reminds me of those famous red letters in Luke’s Gospel where Jesus says, ‘Why do you call me “Lord, Lord” and do not do what I say?’ (Luke 6:46, NIV). There is disconnect between identity and activity.

“If you let the paint mentally dry on the statistic above and the perception about God it reflects for a moment, perhaps my contention of sexual atheism won’t seem so far-fetched. No amount of hand-wringing at the many-headed hydra of the entertainment world or raucous deploring of immoral political philosophies invading our nation can explain this one.

“No, our life in God and for our God reflects our real view of God. These are our adults who populate our weekend services, attend our Bible studies, download our podcast messages, pray often and who have Jesus Culture, Toby Mac and Maroon 5 in their playlists. Having tracked this trend among youth for decades, it is no surprise to me that the broad spectrum of single adults—yesterday’s youth—both feel and act this way. We should really make an effort to not be too shocked or surprised.

“Jesus Himself said it would trend this way. The apostle Paul forewarned the very single, very godly Timothy that there would be times in his ministry when clear and sound doctrine in Scripture would be defeated by broken culture teaming up with the ever-present and self-serving nature within every Christian. He accurately forecasted a self-styled Christianity that reflected culture over the character of Christ in personal moral spaces and practice.

“And nothing, from any frame of reference, is more personal and more moral than our choices regarding sexual expression. It’s where the spiritual rubber really hits the road. But interestingly, Paul’s counsel to Timothy for that time when he saw these trends manifesting on a grand scale was this: ‘Be serious about everything, endure hardship, do the work of an evangelist, fulfill your ministry.’ (2 Tim. 4:5, HCSB). Solid, timely and reliable advice like this was needed then and is really needed now.”

Well, what do you think? Does “sexual atheism” fit what is happening among professing Christians who, knowing God’s fabulous plan of intimate, life-long bonding that comes from sharing our sexual side with one and only one person within the covenant of marriage, choose to ignore His instructions and follow the world? Dr. Del Tackett, of the Truth Project, asks a poignant question, “Do you really believe that what you believe is really real?” When we really believe God is who He says He is and that what He says is true, we shape our lives in accord with His truth. What does “sexual atheism” say about that question? Just a thought.

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